If you are writing to someone and they are not writing back to you, or are writing back a day or a week later you are being ghosted to some degree. It means that the person is trying to get you to go away without actually telling you that. Even if you think they're into you, even if they started the relationship. For whatever reason, you're not a priority for them anymore.
It happens for any number of reasons. It could be that you
screwed up, it could mean that they've found someone they like more than you,
or it could have nothing to do with you in any way. It is NOT occurring because
they are busy or sick or tired. If they wanted to talk to you they would take
the two seconds to write to say they are busy and that they would text you
later. So stop thinking that way. They're just not into you.
If you are being ghosted here is how you deal with it.
Do not continue to text them. You can't dig your way out of
a hole. You're making yourself look pathetic and clingy which makes them less
likely to write you back. If they want to get back in touch with you they will,
so just let go.
Do not ask them if you did something wrong or try to get
validation from them. They are ghosting you because the thought of telling you
to leave them alone is uncomfortable. They sure as hell lack the directness to
tell you what went wrong. In general, don't look to dating partners as a means
of validation. The only person who needs to validate you is you.
Don't take it personally. It sucks, we've all been ghosted.
Just forget it and move on.
Learn to walk away. There are a lot of posts asking what
they can do to salvage a relationship when this starts. Don't try, walk away.
You deserve someone who is delighted to see you and spend time with you. Go
find someone who's eyes light up when they see you. Don't go chasing someone
who doesn't feel that you're worthy of the 5 seconds it would take to text you.
Hope this is helpful in some way.
Cheers
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