It sells empty platitudes, toxic positivity, and magical thinking as if they are a life plan. It tells you that your thoughts control everything. It tells you that every event in your life is something you caused. That claim erases other people’s choices, systems, and chance.
The core problem is simple. You cannot disprove it. If something good happens, believers say you attracted it. If something bad happens, they say you attracted that too or you did not believe hard enough. That is circular reasoning. It is not a testable idea. It is a belief that protects itself.
This belief also blames victims. If you are harmed, you get told your belief or “vibration” brought it in. If someone ghosts you, you get told it is because you are a bad person or because your energy pushed them away. No. Someone can choose to ghost you. Someone can choose to abuse you. Their choice is on them.
LOA refuses to consider agency. It turns every event into a mirror of your thoughts. People stop asking the real questions. Why did this person act this way. What power or policy allowed this. What random bad luck hit me today. Those questions lead to solutions. LOA shuts them down.
It also denies the role of systems and probability. Wages, rents, layoffs, illness, and accidents shape lives. You can work hard and still get crushed by a market or a diagnosis. That fact does not mean you are weak. It means life is not a vision board.
The logic sounds like the harsh line you hear from some rich people. If you are poor, you did not work hard enough. If you suffer, your mindset failed you. It is the same move. Shift blame to the person who is already hurting, then sell a fix.
The “law of assumption” pushes the same thing with a new label. Believe it and it will be. Doubt and you will fail. Different name, same unfalsifiable, self-sealing loop. In practice, its communities often police doubt, shame struggle, and celebrate a few lucky breaks as proof of cosmic rules.
Why does this spread. Survivorship bias. You hear from the small slice of people who report wins. You do not hear from the many who tried, believed, and still faced the world as it is. You also see an industry built on courses, coaches, and influencers who profit when you blame yourself and buy the next step.
The harm is real. People with trauma get told their pain is their fault. People in abusive relationships get told their belief keeps them there. People with chronic illness get told to visualize harder. That pressure isolates you. It loads guilt onto suffering. It delays practical help.
Here is a better frame. You control some things. You do not control everything. That split matters.
You control your boundaries. You control who gets your time. You control the skills you build and the plans you make. You control how quickly you ask for help. You can choose evidence based tools, like basic CBT style thought checks, problem solving, and routine building. These are not cure-alls, but they are measurable and adjustable.
You do not control other people’s choices. You do not control a company’s layoffs. You do not control a drunk driver. You do not control random bad luck. When harm happens, accountability belongs to the person or system that caused it. Your mindset did not cause their behavior.
If someone pushes LOA at you during a hard time, set a line. Please do not tell me my pain is my thoughts. I want tools we can test. Then move to concrete steps. What can we do this week that improves my odds. Who can we involve. What process can we change. What policy can we escalate.
If you once found comfort in LOA, I get it. You wanted control in a chaotic world. Keep the part that helps you set goals and act. Drop the part that blames you for every bad outcome. Hope is healthy. Magical thinking that shames you is not.
I plan to create a space for critics of LOA and its spinoffs. A place to vent without being gaslit. A place to trade real tools, not slogans. If this resonates, you are welcome.
You are not a magnet for abuse or neglect. You are a person. Your life is shaped by your choices, other people’s choices, the systems we all live in, and plain chance. Hold on to that truth. It protects your dignity and directs your effort where it counts.
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